Ways to Forgive without Confrontation

As I shared last week a key to our own internal health is learning the art of forgiving others. A reminder, this doesn’t mean that you have to let someone back into your life, especially if life safety is a question. Further, forgiving doesn't need to include any dialog with the person you are forgiving – unless you feel a strong urge to do so, those are choices.

However, forgiveness work is key to freedom and success in many ways. So, how do you do this without confronting the other person or letting them back into your life. Here are 2 ways I have worked through personally with much success.

1. Write a letter to the person who you want to forgive – lay it all out there the good the bad and the ugly. Especially if you have no intention to send the letter it doesn't matter what finds it’s way to the paper. Dump everything there, how you feel, how they wronged you, write every little thing that comes to mind and at the end bless that person and release them. Then burn or shred the paper and don’t look back.

2. Alone in a car or your home have a conversation with the imagined person in front of you or simply walk through the house or drive as you have this virtual conversation. Similar to the writing out on paper – tell them everything that you feel, everything that you remember that needs to be downloaded and stated. This is a time for no holds barred. If there are swear words on the tip of your tongue during this imagined confrontation let them fly – it’s ok. If you cry all good, let the tears flow – they are not seeing you this is just you releasing. When you are done – again bless, release them and say goodbye just as you would close out any other conversation and don’t look back. They will be find and so will you.

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